This Week’s Topic : F*ck Cupid & F*ck Anxiety! Learn Love Language
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ANXIETY
Happy Valentine’s Day. Happy Anniversary. Happy Black History Month. And Congratulations. I hope you are having a beautiful day. Love is in the air. Let’s try not to let anxiety f*ck it up for us okay. Raise your middle finger to anxiety. Make sure you take a break today to breathe if you need to breathe it out. Anxiety does not take a break. I wish you all love and happiness, and a fat tax return.
LOVE LANGUAGE
With this day of love comes so many questions. Do you know what love language is? Do you know your love language? Do you know your partner’s? Does it matter? Of course—it’s key to connecting with anyone you care about. It’s not gender-specific so no “Pause” needed, and it’s not just for today, it’s simply about what makes someone feel appreciated.
Whether it’s food, getting their feet together or Top Golf, knowing what lights someone up helps you express love effectively. Without it, Valentine’s Day and/or gift-giving in general can feel stressful and overwhelming. Try this cheat code to gift giving for Valentine’s Day without breaking yourself.
CHEAT CODE
Remember, Valentine’s Day is about love, and it doesn’t have to be perfect. Embrace what makes you feel good and focus on enjoying the moment. Of course you know the obvious sexy stuff chocolates, a card, and roses, but what else can satisfy the feeling of a gift good enough to give Bae?
Do you know the best way to know and get exactly what they want? Ask them. But, I found a few ways you can avoid blowing your wad if you follow these steps with your last minute gift-getting self. They’re going to love whatever you give, stop all the “what-ifs”. This list applies to both men and women. Studies suggest using these strategies for gift shopping can help you avoid anxiety and enjoy the day.
1) Set realistic expectations
2) Communicate
3) Focus on self-love
4) Avoid comparisons
5) Do what makes you comfortable
THE GUY
What A Guy Wants
For Valentine’s Day, it’s all about making him feel special and appreciated. What he wants depends on his personality and love language. But most men appreciate thoughtful gestures that highlight his uniqueness something only he will have like a dog tag he’s been dying for or something he can use like a monogram travel bag. Make him feel like "that dude" with a gift or experience that shows you care. These fools like pretty basic, very simple gifts. However, he does appreciate an expensive cologne. You have to pay attention to what he’s interested in, but a man’s love language is usually:
Something Thoughtful & Personal
Make him a playlist, a handwritten love letter, custom engraved gift, or framed photo of a special memory.
An Experience Over a Material Gift
Plan a fun date, weekend getaway, or at-home date night with his favorite dish you cook or from a favorite restaurant.
Something Practical & Useful
Grooming kits, tech accessories, a book, or his favorite snacks and drinks.
Appreciation & Affection
Express love through heartfelt conversation, a relaxing massage, or some game time if you play video games or a start a new tv show together.
What A Guy Needs
Psssst F*ck that, listen they (studies) can say what they want but we all know the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. All that is true and what most guys need is food and convenience maybe a shot of Grey Goose and a quickie and probably for you to shut the f*ck up, because you always talking, you talk so much you make him talk but that’s neither here, nor there.
He’ll go out if you want to, but he’d rather chill and enjoy a home-cooked, comforting meal personally made and tailored to his taste. Maybe a movie depending on the time of night anything after 8 pm he’s done. And some appreciation. Right fellas? Right.
THE GIRL
What A Girl Wants
A girl wants you to pay attention to her, clean up, a car, a house, an Optimus, she wants everything - all that plus some extra shihh, run that card bruh. At this point it’s probably easier to ask her what doesn’t she want. Girls want everything….right now.
Every woman has a unique combination of love languages, so paying attention to what makes her happiest will help you express love in a way she truly values. Her love language may be:
Words of Affirmation – She feels loved through compliments, encouragement, and heartfelt expressions.
Acts of Service – Actions speak louder than words; helping her with tasks, surprising her with thoughtful gestures, or simply making her life easier shows love.
Receiving Gifts – Thoughtful, meaningful gifts (big or small) make her feel cherished and appreciated.
Attention – Undivided attention, meaningful conversations, and shared experiences make her feel special.
Physical Touch – Hugs, kisses, holding hands, or a simple touch on the back reassures her of your affection. (Don’t f*ck this up)
What A Girl Needs
F*ck that, the key is a thoughtful, well-prepared gift and a meal that feels special and creates a memorable dining experience. For a Valentine’s Day a girl needs something that will make her feel special and sexy and all that, it doesn’t matter where it’s from, she thinks it’s dope because you took the time out to think about it, but to actually execute the plan that’s crazy. Women love and need the effort, that’s why you should try it. Right ladies? Right.
DIY
Now, if you have not secured dinner reservations for you and Bae by now, you most likely will not be making any, you f*cked up and you’re fired, but you still have time to make the most beautiful atmosphere at home. Create the perfect DIY Valentine’s Day dinner and movie date night at home with a delicious meal from the grill and a cozy, sexy setup.
Guide to the setup: Create a cozy space with blankets, candles or a fire pit, a romantic or fun movie, appetizers, dinner, wine and dessert. Make it sexy and fun and watch their reaction.
Pair with a fire playlist softly playing, Moscato, a handcrafted cocktail like a grilled pineapple margarita or chilled shots of *Grey Goose + lemon wedges.
Appetizer
Charcuterie Board – A mix of gourmet cheeses, meats, fruits, and chocolates.
Lobster or Crab Dip – Creamy, cheesy seafood dip with toasted baguette slices.
Dinner (On the grill or the oven)
Surf-and-Turf
Steak & Lobster Tail – Season the steak with garlic, butter, salt, and pepper, all your favorite seasonings, sprig of rosemary and grill to perfection. For lobster tails, stuff with butter, lemon, and crushed garlic, then grill shell-side down until red-orange and tender.
Grilled Veggies – Asparagus, broccolini, mushrooms, onions, zucchini, lightly seasoned and charred for extra flavor.
Garlic Butter Potatoes – Wrap baby potatoes in foil with butter, garlic, and herbs, then grill until soft.
Dessert
Chocolate covered strawberries
Pound cake
The Movie
Love Jones
This is a must-see movie Love Jones is a 1997 romantic drama about the passionate, complicated relationship between Darius (Laurenz Tate), a poet, and Nina (Nia Long), a photographer, as they navigate love, career ambitions, and emotional vulnerability in Chicago's vibrant arts scene.
There you have it, a simple, custom made, intimate night for two. It’s the perfect date for Valentine’s Day at the crib.