This Week’s Topic: The 6 Steps To Undo Codependency (Even A Therapist Has A Therapist)

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FCKS UP

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ANXIETY

Are you codependent on someone? Would you know if you were? Feeling lost? Like you don’t know what to do or how to handle feeling fed the fck up and used, never thinking for yourself and feeling like someone else controls your every move, and always fcking sharing everything? It’s almost like you don’t want to be responsible any more, or too much codependency? And you fcking want to yell help! On top of anxiety. Same. Well this article is for you ass. Even a therapist has a therapist. We about to kill all that noise, let’s get rid of this energy right now. Anxi a what? Fck that, let’s dive in.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

I hope this helps someone today. Listen, feeling fed the fck up, drained, and overgiving, is real. You are not wrong for saying no. You’re not broken, you’re overextended. That’s growth. Stop carrying everything. Set boundaries. You’re still kind, just learning balance. Some things are simply too much. Do whatever it takes to gain your independence.

WHAT HAPPENS

This shit isn’t random, it’s what happens when your mind and body get overloaded from giving too much for too long, you’ve heard pressure makes diamonds right? Boom. Sometimes it shows up different. It can show up as anger, numbness, irritation, or just “I’m done.” You are fine. It’s all calm, and you don’t even mean it. But right now, you really do. You don’t need to figure out why right this second. First, let’s calm the feeling. Say no. Saying no is not mean, it’s picking you. You got it, we all have our days. Practice these 6 steps to soothe anxiety and get out of that fcked up energy.

WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY

You may be codependent and not know. Codependency is a dysfunctional pattern of behavior in which individuals in the relationship prioritize the needs, feelings, and desires of others over their own. Typically, codependent relationships often involve an excessive reliance on others for approval, validation, and a sense of identity. (Source)

GUIDE FOR SUCCESS

6 steps to stop codependency:

1. Pause the oversharing (immediately) 2. Stop volunteering yourself 3. Give responsibility back 4. Sit with the discomfort 5. Create one boundary today 6. Reclaim your energy

PAUSE THE OVERSHARING

1. Pause The Oversharing (Immediately). You don’t have to tell everyone everything. Try this simple rule: Before sharing, ask: “Is this mine to process first?” Give yourself 24 hours before opening up about something emotional. You’re allowed to have private thoughts and feelings. (Source)

SAY FCK NO

2. Stop Volunteering Yourself. Codependency often sounds like: “I’ll handle it” “I got you” “Don’t worry about it.”

New response: “I can’t take that on right now” “I need to think about it” and “That’s not something I can do.”

Short. No explanation. No guilt.

GIVE IT BACK

3. Give Responsibility Back. If you feel used, it’s usually because you’re holding things that aren’t yours. And fck that. Ask yourself: “Is this actually my responsibility?” If not, fcking return it mentally and physically.

Example: Someone vents constantly, “I care about you, but I don’t have the capacity for this right now.”

HOW TO SIT IN DISCOMFORT

4. Sit With The Discomfort. This is the hardest part. When you stop over giving, you might feel:

• Guilty

• Selfish

• Anxious

That doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It means you’re doing something new.

PROMO

Thank you for your support.

CREATE BOUNDARIES

5. Create One Boundary Today (Just one) Not ten. Not a life of overhaul. Pick just one:

• Don’t answer a message right away

• Say no to something small

• Keep something to yourself

Small boundaries rebuild your sense of self.

RECLAMATION OF ENERGIZATION

6. Reclaim Your Energy. You said: “I don’t want to be responsible anymore.” You don’t have to be, for everyone. Try this shift: Instead of “Who needs me?” Ask: “What do Ineed right now?” Even if the answer is: silence, space, or not doing shit….at all. Do it for you.

CALL TO ACTION

Reclaim your energy. You don’t have to carry everyone. Pause and ask: what do I need right now? Choose yourself. Silence, space, or rest. Start small. Protect your peace daily.

FCKTHAT 

Make your choice and stick with it. Nobody will be mad at you, it’s growth. Love yourself. Thanks for reading.

Catch you next Friday @4:44pm 🗓️